how not to fit in

’The lack of information around how ADHD and autism shows up in adults means that many of us have been assuming we were anxious, not working hard enough, or just entirely failing altogether.’ – Jess Joy and Charlotte Mia

Foregrounding real experiences with autism and ADHD, this book explores the journey of discovering, accepting and flourishing with your neurodivergent brain. It explores why getting diagnosis can be so fraught and gendered, and how to navigate a world which centres neurotypical brains in the realms of relationships, careers, friendships and finances.

By reading this book, you’ll:

  • Start to understand why so many people are being diagnosed with ADHD and autism right now

  • Learn the impact that not knowing your own brain can have on your mental health

  • Find the confidence to ask for accommodations and adjustments at work – without apologising

  • Have the chance to note down how this journey is evolving for you in chapter-by-chapter workbook sections.

  • … and, most importantly, get to know yourself and your needs better.

Featuring the latest research and thinking on neurodivergence, contributions from dozens of experts and the real stories of people just like you, this innovative book – which has been written and designed especially for *spicy* brains – is essential reading for anyone whose brain seems to see the world in a different way.

Two women sitting at a table during a book signing event. One woman, with long hair and zebra-print pants, is holding a book and a yellow pen. The other woman, wearing a black leather jacket and a black face mask, is seated across from her. There are several copies of the book titled 'how not to fit in' stacked on the table, alongside a small box and a pen. A large poster behind them displays the book cover and the subtitle 'An unapologetic guide to navigating autism and ADHD.' A bouquet of yellow and white flowers is also on the table.